I believe that everyone has basically decided that children are very impressionable. Every thing you do around them might actually form their future views, opinions, personality and actions. So, to make up for our mistakes on raising our own children, we tend to blame things on video games, or say they waste a kids life, or perhaps that they actually negatively mold our children.
Now what about any other form of entertainment? Such as books, television, music or sports? All such things can be used as tools for teaching your kid and/or bonding with them. Reading a book to your kid before bed, watching spongebob with them, putting them in music lessons, watching their sporting events. All these things can be shared between the parents and children and form positive results. All of these things are also very possible of holding perhaps violent images or actions, disturbing ideas and what not. I mean, in one of the most beloved "children's" books of all time, Harry Potter, people DIE!!!! Yet this is acceptable, we share the experience with our kids and can explain to them death and life.
Video games are another matter entirely. It seems that the majority of parents ignore the benefits that video games can hold. If used correctly, video games can hold as much "positive energy" that we associate sports, books or movies with. The only difference I think is the lack of understanding on the part of the parents. While movies are simply sit down and watch, books sit down and read, and music sit down and listen, It is a little more complicated to hook up two controllers and play side by side with your child. It is funny though, video games can be used to read (RPG), Music (Rock Band), Watched (Game with pretty graphics) or even as a fitness tool (Wii fit, DDR). Oddly enough though, the parents choose to ignore all this and force other extracurriculars into the small heads of their children. It's easy to say that the kid should be trying new things, but it is also easy to say that the parents should be willing to explore the joys of their own. A child who finds excitement in a game does not want to be torn away to go play some sport with his dad, he wants his dad to sit down and enjoy the game with him. Read? No mom, come do voice acting for the characters in Final Fantasy. What? I don't want to learn how to play the guitar, I would rather you play the guitar and I play the drums on Rockband. Sure none of these are real sports, real books or real music. This is after all a video game. But a child does not always want to go out to play, or play an instrument. Most parents fail to realize this. They want their kid to ignore games completely, and in wanting that, they do so themselves. By ignoring something their kids potentially love, it is very easy for a child to feel... not necessarily unloved themselves, but misguided in their own actions and decisions. A kid should not feel guilty for wanting to play Crash Bandicoot, but some parents will look at that game with disdain. The kid will feel that as well.
Here is my plan for my kid.
Starting at age 6... I will give him a new console for his birthday EVERY year.
When he turns six, I will give him my atari.
Seven? My game boy color.
Eight? Nintendo.
Nine? Sega Genisis.
And so on and so forth. My kid will maybe even get sick of games. He might not even like him. But that will be his decision. I in no way will keep video games from him and act as if they are some deviant from a normal life. I will share every aspect of an active life with my son (Or daughter god forbid). Whether or not I want to be involved with it, I will. I plan on being a GOOD parent. Not one that is scared of new technology, or is used to playing outside as a kid.
I hate playing soccer, but dammit I will play it with my son if he wants to.
I will beat his ass in halo as well.
-Travis
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Very true, Travis. I guess I was one of the lucky ones that had his whole family like games, but I understand what you're saying.
I created a forum post regarding a parents view of gaming in your life yesterday. Feel free to share your experiences growing up.
http://4playerpodcast.proboards.com/index.cgi?board=gaming&action=display&thread=2846
Travis... You want to be my dad for, oh I don't know, the next 10 years?
I totally agree, i hope to raise my child like that too one day. But I was born in the later generation so the first system I got was the ps1, and also the n64. I hope to gradually advance my child like you are, starting with ps1 to maybe 360 when they're a teen.
Make the kid work his ass to get the better systems.
Hah I guess I was really lucky then. My dad was one of those early technology adopters. I always had the latest in computer tech and and played all the latest PC games. When my dad got our first console the PSX I still remember my family playing final fantasy 7 together. Heh we named the characters after ourselves and our pets. Not as good as an ideal as we eventually found out. But I still cherish those moments.
I have to admit, while I learned the basics in grade school, Final Fantasy was a big part in me learning to read. While I might not have understood the stories completely, when a new word, far beyond my mental capacity came up at the time, in the context it was being used, I could easily understand what it meant, and use it in everyday life. Final Fantasy 8 had its share of words that might have been a little big for someone that was seven years old, as few as they might have been. I could have carried on a semi-intelligent conversation, lacking any real knowledge of the world.
That said, I agree completely with the idea that games can be used as a tool, much like the others are. I know one of my teachers in high school, while not showing them the bloody mess perk in fallout 3 or turning on the speakers during online play in halo 3, shares his game play experience with his kids when appropriate, and I feel like i would do the same. Certainly with the new generation this idea will become more and more acceptable as the older one is no longer in control (most of us are headed to college and inevitably to children soon.) The transition is pretty easily seen to happen in just a few generation's time.
I read a report in one of the national papers in the UK, that Scientists have said that gaming is good for kids as it develops the cognitive part of the brain - as in our thinking, reasoning, remembering and learning, what is wrong with parents is that they won't take the time out to see for themselves that it can help their kids rather than hinder.
Pretty sure the only reason I can read as fast as I can is because of RPGs. I used to play with people watching and I would ask them if I was going too fast through the text. They were always like, "nah, you're slow, actually." So I was like well DAMNIT, I want to be better then You! So I started trying to read faster...
Healthy competition. Only a little weird...
Definitely learned some Norse mythology from Final Fantasy games, and definitely hand-eye coordination with rhythm games. I approve of this teaching method!
-Oreo
Makes me think of my plans for my child.. There's a part of me that wants to introduce my child to all sorts of games. But then again, I don't want to introduce her to online multiplayer games or real violent games. I also don't want her to be an addict like me and play games all day instead of go outside and play with her friends. I'm also planning on limiting how much she can play and what kind of games. When my child hits a certain age, I'll let her play online.
I don't have a child, I'm saying 'her' because I'm planning on a daughter dammit.
How about you let your kid game AND read books? Crazy, I know, but let it linger in your brain a minute.
I kind of hope Travis has multiple daughters, and they all grow up to be smoking hot teenagers. And when boys come prowling around they throw rocks at their bedroom windows and yell "You are my quest".
I dream big.
-Skyliner
Travis luckily both of my parents enjoyed playing video games.
I remember recently my father couldn't get past the part in God of War where you have to make love to two women. He had me come and beat that for him.
Ah! the bonding moments. :)
Marry me!
So Travis, I notice you keep saying son. What are you planning to do if you have a daughter?
did you know girls could be circumsized?
Oh Travis, you would make such a kind and warm paternal figure.... for a son, at least. For a daughter (shudder).... as you say, let's not think about that.
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